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solidrecommendations t1_jaaf7m0 wrote

Reply to comment by pomegranatecloud in how to thrive in dc with no big city experience? by Fresh_Dragonfruit702

While this is true, if someone kindly asks me for money etc. and I don’t feel like helping, I say something like “sorry, not today, hope you have a good one.” 90% of the time folks say something like you too and it isn’t a big deal. The other 10% of the time they say nothing back which is also fine. I just hate treating people like they don’t exist.

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romanceordelusion t1_jaaydq2 wrote

Agree, don’t treat people like they don’t exist if it looks like they’re just asking for cash. Just say sorry and keep going. If you’re a young woman and a man is leering, do not make eye contact.

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nakoros t1_jac8jkh wrote

I acknowledge their existence, apologize, and say I don't have cash (which is usually true, I prefer to not carry cash).

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LoganSquire t1_jacasoz wrote

Why are you apologizing? To make yourself feel better? If you were really sorry, you’d start carrying cash.

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erotomachy t1_jacic91 wrote

Sorry, I don’t have time to fight trolls today.

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Gumburcules t1_jacv3oo wrote

It's literally just something you say to be polite.

It's the same as saying "fine" when someone asks how you're doing even if you're not fine, or saying "it was great to see you" after you run into someone you don't particularly like. Everybody knows it's a canned answer but it shows that you're willing to do the bare minimum to not be an asshole.

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AlphaStormyFire t1_jaano2m wrote

Or they cuss you out when you do this

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aallzz t1_jaboo8g wrote

I mean if getting cussed out 1 out of 10 times is the cost of being decent to another human being the other 9 times that seems to be a cost well worth bearing.

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Bobinho4 t1_jabmbex wrote

I am with you on this one albeit the response percentage differs: 80% positive response 10% nothing 10% say fucking racist etc or screаm at me

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romanceordelusion t1_jacixqh wrote

A homeless guy called me a racist name just for walking on the sidewalk past him, if someone is gonna lash out that’s on them

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