AcroAmo

AcroAmo OP t1_iu52l5l wrote

Reply to comment by melodien in LPT: If you have items that are precious, tell your adult children the story of those things far before death. Better yet, write it down and include it with the item. by AcroAmo

I’m sorry for your loss - it sounds as though it was time. The same was true for my mom. Death brought peace.

I relate so much to your last paragraph. The stress of being an executor is huge… add on a crap tone of potentially precious items with more organization/notes whatsoever and it can feel insurmountable.

We went through my moms stuff in a series over months. It is truly incredible how much stuff can fit in a 700 sq ft apartment.

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AcroAmo OP t1_iu51mr7 wrote

Reply to comment by Cultural_Star_6355 in LPT: If you have items that are precious, tell your adult children the story of those things far before death. Better yet, write it down and include it with the item. by AcroAmo

Thank you for your thoughts.

It sounds as though you are in remission? That must have been some hard shit to work through. Truly, I’m happy to hear the treatment worked and I hope it continues to be enough.

You could create email addresses for your children and send them notes. Or it could just be handwritten notes to be opened later. As an adult now, the story behind the stuff is more meaningful because I can see my mom as both a mom and as a woman. That was much murkier when I was young and before I had my own child. Your littles might like to enjoy notes of you expressing your love and hopes for them. Perhaps some memories that are ‘big’ (big means different things to different people). And pictures together.

Wishing you well.

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AcroAmo OP t1_iu5010u wrote

Reply to comment by NotObviouslyARobot in LPT: If you have items that are precious, tell your adult children the story of those things far before death. Better yet, write it down and include it with the item. by AcroAmo

I have reread this comment several times. I think you’ve managed to say what I was thinking and wanting to express on a spiritual level in such a concise/thought provoking way. I would have written an essay to get to that point and we’d all be bored in tears by the end.

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AcroAmo OP t1_iu4imia wrote

Reply to comment by OmniFella in LPT: If you have items that are precious, tell your adult children the story of those things far before death. Better yet, write it down and include it with the item. by AcroAmo

This. I have a few voicemails that I just won’t delete because I want to remember her voice. They aren’t special emails - hell it’s just her nagging me to call. An intentional audio interview would be gold. I’m so glad you have that.

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