Surviving infidelity sub will offer good advice, but basically YOU need to work out what you want. If you want to try to salvage your relationship then he needs to go nc with her and change jobs as a min and you both need ic and mc to work this out. He needs to give you a full time line of everything. He aslo needs to give you full access to everythjng. If not go see a lawyer and see what divorce looks like

That sucks but just tell her to move out and crack in with your if you want the nuke option, id out her to everyone and let them know what happens and how she used you

Stay strong brother your friend will always have to watch his back with her she is a pos