It can be valid for her to be busy and not message much, but it’s just as valid that you need more. Compatible communication styles and equal effort are really important in the early days.

No worries! If it feels right with your bf and he’s giving you all the signs and love languages then don’t worry about the label, he may surprise you in a month or 2! If he starts pulling away and there are no signs of progression then you need to consider your own happiness. Good luck!

She was just, herself. I knew she was great from the start but the feelings and trust built up over time. We very rarely spoke about our labels and what the rules were. I remember once she tried to talk about us when I wasn’t quite ready, I changed the subject and she didn’t push any further. I had my own internal anxieties about getting into another, possibly life changing, relationship and she did very well to not add to that. The label came after we spent a whole week with each other around Christmas (last Christmas) and it was just obvious this was for real.

We’ve all been there. What you’re experiencing has been felt by billions of people before you and will be felt by billions after you (unless we kill the planet). Biggest gap between my relationships was 3 years, had a few dalliances, but I pretty much accepted id be single forever. At the age of 33 I found my perfect woman, and I was a better person from the past relationship experience.

Yup that’s rough. That’s what happens though, people break up and some time later they start new relationships. All part of the cycle. You’ll start a new relationship at some point, if you choose to (probably when you’re more content).

Interesting question, and probably a confusing answer! I had a single mentality but was “casual” with someone I was massively falling for. I could have slept with or dated whoever I wanted during that time, I just didn’t because the perfect woman was already in my life. I had my barriers up as I’d had my life turned upside down in past breakups. I had just gotten to the stage in my life where I was content and in control I.e. job, house, cat, friends. I was scared to make it official because that label comes with obligations, expectations and I didn’t want to get my hopes up.

I understand where he’s coming from. Me and my gf took things very slowly, we knew within a few weeks we were exclusive (no obligation just by choice), admitted we were something more at 5 months, then official around the 7 month mark. Her reason for the slow pace was that her previous relationship was toxic and she was still healing when we met. My reason was that I was enjoying being single and didn’t see myself settling with anyone. We were both incredibly cautious and it worked out for the better... so I guess what I am saying people can take a long time to adjust, it may not necessarily be a bad thing as long as he is being honest.

Yep, my ex left me for someone else who wasn’t as good as me, she begged me back a few weeks later. I took her back, I never fully recovered from the betrayal and could never trust her again. Then just under a year later she cheated on me with that very same person. Have some self-respect and walk away.