Wtf are you talking about in the second half?

What someone likes or not is none of your business, and if you want to judge people go ahead, but don't expect them to be cool with it.

No one here, myself included, is saying the girl is to blame, just that she overreacted a bit. If op likes those things and she can't accept him, he dodged a bullet by not getting in a relationship with someone that can't accept him for what he is, that is all. In the same way you probably wouldn't like to date a person that has those tastes, so you can probably say they both dodged a bullet.

Idk what you two have been through, but in this specific situation, replying like that on the first occurrence and after op said it was an accident and he is sorry is just ridiculous.

If this was on purpose or a recurring thing this would be a different story.

>she say this is the first and thr last time she'll ever forgive me

If she is serious about that, you just dodged a bullet.