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Can't be that great if your willing to even think about cheating. I see no good from lying or secrets, only harm.

I don't much care if you believe me. Though I'd still recommend taking that concept to heart, not that difficult to be honest and transparent.

I'm honest with those I care about, that's what's right. What's wrong is deceiving those you care for. I think it's you that needs to grow up, my condolences to your loved ones if you see no fault in lying to them.

I'm sure she'd love to find out later and potentially from someone else, all after more time and emotional investment.

She deserves to know and it's cruel to not tell her so that she can make a decision about continuing the relationship with all the available information.

Ah how very moral, cheat and don't tell, all good then.

What a stand up guy

I'm not saying it's impossible, it does happen of course. But chances are that trust can never be fully repaired. Even if she gets to a point where she wants to try and wants to trust you. Odds are she won't fully.