BethiIdes89

BethiIdes89 t1_jdnk3dw wrote

No, you're not listening. Again, you're assuming people do drag as a kink/for sexual gratification. That's not the reality. There are lots of reasons to do drag--entertainment, commenting on gender stereotypes, getting to express a part of yourself that doesn't conform to what's traditionally expected of your gender (there is such a thing as drag kings), political activism, and making money as a performer, to name a few reasons.

If a drag queen is doing a library reading for kids or some other event where there's a high likelihood of kids being present, they're not making sexual jokes or comments. If a drag queen makes those jokes at an evening show for adults and a kid happens to be there, that is not on the drag queen. That's on the parents for bringing their kids to a show that's not meant for kids. If a kid goes to a sexually explicit movie that depicts straight people, is it the filmmakers and actors' trying to enact a fetish on those kids? Or does that only apply if the movie depicts gay people?

You're relying on old, harmful stereotypes of gay people as pedophiles, whether or not you recognize it. Most adults-- gay, straight, and everything else out there--are sexual beings, and we all say sexual things and sometimes talk about it in performances, movies, books, etc. Is this inherently enacting on a fetish?

And to answer why drag queens are performing in front of kids, for example, reading a book at a library, it's about kids learning about acceptance of people different from them and because drag queens are like walking cartoon characters and that's fun for kids.

Again, you probably should try to learn about what is actually happening instead of making generalized statements that are based on stereotypes meant to demonize and harm a group of people.

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BethiIdes89 t1_jdndd0d wrote

Drag is in no way a fetish. People do drag for a ton of reasons. Could someone do drag as a fetish? Sure. But it's in no way inherent to what drag is and certainly isn't happening 99% of the time. If you read a book, watched an episode of Drag Race, watched "Paris is Burning," or just talked to a drag queen, you'd know that. But instead you'd prefer to call them all pedophiles, which is horrifying and hateful. A drag queen making sexually lewd jokes at an adult show does not mean they're a pedophile or trying to evoke anything other than a laugh. And not all drag queens make sexually lewd jokes.

You don't know what you're talking about, and I don't think you're interested in learning. You can't come to a conversation in good faith by calling an entire group of people pedophiles. Educate yourself or mind your own business. And if you're actually interested in protecting kids, go talk to a CPS worker about the reality of what child abuse actually is in this state.

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BethiIdes89 t1_jbxtyrg wrote

This is what we had to do. Benefits Data Trust, an organization whose whole job is to help people access their benefits, told us it’s an ongoing problem and that the best thing to do is have your state rep’s office put in an inquiry to the Department of Labor. My partner got a call from the unemployment office the next dat with everything straightened out.

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BethiIdes89 t1_j9ysdhh wrote

Call your state rep and have them put in an inquiry to the Department of Labor. My partner has been trying to go through the claims process, but the portal has been a nightmare. When he goes to the link to submit his weekly info, it says, "You can't put anything here until January 15th." It's been over a month, and it still says that.

Call your state House rep and have them put in an inquiry to the Department of Labor. My partner has been trying to go through the claims process, but the portal has been a nightmare. When he goes to the link to submit his weekly info, it says, "You can put anything here until January 15th." It's been over a month, and it still says that. ely. Their suggestion was to call our state rep and do what I mentioned above. Our state rep's team also confirmed this has been a constant problem.

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