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Better_Addition_2872 t1_iycmvl1 wrote
The key to resolving any issue is through communication... Open your heart out, and let him hear your insecurities regarding your relationship. Maybe he's just aloof about all these issues you face. At the end of the day it's only for you to decide whether to stay or let go. You had doubts about the relationship, 2 years in, and now you're 5 years into the relationship. Don't try to stretch it out further. This is the most important conversation which would make or break your relation.
Better_Addition_2872 t1_iy89mrb wrote
Reply to comment by myWholeWifeIsaLie in Found out Wife cheated on me a bunch during bootcamp 10 years ago by myWholeWifeIsaLie
Move on with your life... You'll be alright
Better_Addition_2872 t1_iy88exh wrote
Reply to comment by pineapplesgreen in Found out Wife cheated on me a bunch during bootcamp 10 years ago by myWholeWifeIsaLie
"Sorry, I don't think we are on the same page regarding marriage, we don't see each other so much anymore, I'm terribly lonely and feel like we've married young. I would suggest a period of seperation, and we'll see what we go from there"
The key to any good marriage is communication. Instead of communicating her feelings... She took the easy way out and cheated, while he was way on bootcamp. She might have married young, and might have been lonely. But she did take her husband for granted, and cheated on him... She also hid the fact from him, for 10 years and took away the choice he had to make an informed decision for all these years. Nothing about her, in this arc of a story, makes her seem like a good person...
Better_Addition_2872 t1_iy87eoi wrote
Reply to comment by MarmotaOta in Found out Wife cheated on me a bunch during bootcamp 10 years ago by myWholeWifeIsaLie
He absolutely can and should... By confessing now, instead of 10 years back, she consciously took away his choice to take an informed decision back then, and continued this fake marriage, where everything was happy and joyful, while rugsweeping her cheating
Better_Addition_2872 t1_iy872tx wrote
Don't let some people tell you otherwise... It's ok for you to have cheating as a deal breaker... Whether it was from 5 or 10 years ago... The fact of the matter is she cheated. Now there are many reasons as to what she could have gone through, in order to cheat on you... You married young, she didn't have experience, you were away etc. None of these reasons absolves her cheating. Get a good divorce lawyer, cut your losses and move on with your life
Better_Addition_2872 t1_iyd97sc wrote
Reply to Is there any way to save my relationship after cheating? by [deleted]
You were lonely and was feeling unloved, it still doesn't give you the right to cheat... You should've moved on, instead of staying in the relationship. You didn't even have the decency to come clean to him, he found out on his own( his luck has not run out)
Now the only person to forgive you should be your husband. I hope he doesn't forgive you, and kick your cheating ass to the curb.