100% tell your white bride about your Asian fetish. How else can she fulfill your desires?

You are both full-fledged adults so the conversation should go over well.

He has his dating app set to be matched with 20 year-olds and he is 43?

There's nothing illegal here so just message him and keep the conversation growing. The power dynamic will always be against you. Your chance of success with someone like this is VERY slim unless you plan on just sleeping with him.

Imagine for a second... you want to date a guy who hasn't been born yet. He is more than double your age. He is looking for girls like you for a reason and it is NEVER a good reason.

The weed will likely keep her in this mental state for her whole life if she continues to smoke. Seriously it prevents people from growing mentally as I've seen.

She will come back eventually/apologize and blame herself and her condition. Let her come back don't pursue her. You take her back.. it will absolutely happen again though. Like I said.. we make these choices. Choose your life.

Reason I asked is because a lot of times relationships with people with severe mental health issues ends up being incredibly one-sided. Her condition is not going to get better. If this kind of behavior makes you feel "loved" then you probably need to reevaluate. You feeling bad for her during this shows a great deal of compassion but, this is wildly unacceptable behavior as a partner.

A dog can make you feel loved and be there for you when no one else is.

She has acted exactly how she will act for probably her whole life. This will VERY likely be a cycle that she does with you until she dies. If you like it/can handle it.. great then stay with her. Your choice.

What did she do for you?

He sabotages any chance he can for you to have a personal relationship with anyone on his side. He is building a wall between you and his people. This is a surefire way to lose a girlfriend IMO.

A partner is someone who at a minimum has your back. Your boyfriend is not meeting the bare minimum requirements of even a basic friend.

A life of your (future) husband shit talking literally you to everyone who will listen does not sound like a future. It sounds honestly really lonely.

She is going to go live her "best life" and abandon her family. Your child needs a strong parent now. Go look in the mirror and tell yourself what needs to be heard. Then spend negative energy in a positive way. Be strong brother. You will only grow from here.

Block out what your wife is doing and make sure that child is taken care of. Child first. Then you can deal with your brat wife.

You can figure this out. Clearly some things are going on outside your marriage. Find it.

Therapy. If she refuses it is done man.

Yah man. Keep it together for the kid. Get on a workout regiment and spend negative energy in a positive way. If she "doesn't feel the connection" that is time to get a couple's therapist and figure out wtf is going on.

BTW there is always "not another guy" and they always "swear there isn't" if there is another. Probably like 95+% of cheaters say these things. I would snoop honestly.

> She said that I was being cold and not showing her love and giving her attention the way she wanted

This is probably a lie. She needed a quick excuse.

> saying she’s done

I'm sorry man. This is a very quick/abrupt ending seemingly. Doesn't sound like she wanted to try and make it work at all. Most couples with issues would go to therapy etc or you would've seen this coming. My strong guess is she has another guy and made some bullshit excuse.

He wanted to be exclusive and redownloaded bumble. Came up with an excuse and then cried.

You have a type unfortunately I think.

No. She doesn't need to block him. You need to ask to see the conversations. You saw enough to warrant answers.

He is talking about fucking her ass

She was lying to you by not telling you about him.

Don't feel weird. Get the answers you deserve. If she refuses or deleted everything it is over.

This is very odd.. how can you let her go to the guy's house and watch anime if you don't know he exists?

> I saw that the gaydude sent him his pubic hair and told her he will f*ck her in the arse.

This stuff is really damn hard to follow. If she is getting pics of this dude's dick and he is saying "I will fuck you in the ass" to her that would cross a major boundary for me and I would instantly cut contact.

After 3 years you can ask to see her conversation IMO. If you saw "I will fuck you in the ass" you deserve some answers. Especially if he was a secret.

E: I will add. If she deleted everything I would consider the relationship over.

"I won't be with anyone else while we are fwb. I respect you"

I would stop texting her.

You will figure out if she is actually interested pretty quick. Let her do the reaching out and plan making. If she doesn't do it I think you would have your answer.