Gathering from the information that you had shared, it seems that the bride may have felt it would been insensitive to invite you to her wedding when you were going through some relationship issues. Or it could just be that she didn’t think you guys were close enough to warrant an invitation.

I don’t know where you’re located, or anything about your culture or the bride’s. But I’m Asian and I’m located in Southern CA. Growing up my family (and alot of our other Asian friends and family) viewed receiving a wedding invitation as a sign of a bill/debt to pay. Even if you weren’t close to the bride and groom, there was a social expectation to gift a certain amount in cash or check (non monetary gifts are frowned upon in the Asian culture). The standard amount was $100 per person attending (it may be $200 now due to raising prices). So imagine if you’re working in a company where 60% of the employees are Asian and you don’t all know each other but yet every few months you get a wedding invitation for you and your S.O. to attend. I have older siblings and I remember hearing them complain and bitch about attending another co worker’s wedding. Of course people could just always decline - but if you decline then when it’s YOUR turn to get marry people won’t attend your wedding and won’t return the monetary gifts. It’s a very tit for tat kind of arrangement and gross I know. I’m glad when I got married my husband and I opted to tell our guests not to bring gifts to remove the possible stressors. But anyway, what I’m saying is that my siblings and I guess my parents would have been thrilled not to have been invited to the wedding of a coworker whom they hardly knew.

You should check out some local comedy clubs in your area for that day and just go spend the evening at a comedy club and enjoy yourself with a friend or two!

You’ve gotten some great advice so far. But I’d like to point out that we don’t know your current financial situation - so for those who have suggested talking to a therapist that might not be possible currently as a session can run a couple hundred dollars depending on where you’re located if you don’t have the funds to do so.

A cheap and effective way is to just read some self help books on anger management - you can check them out for free at your local library. When I was in high school I got and read most of all the self help books from the library by my school and I truly believed most of those books helped shaped how I approach a lot of things in my life as an adult.

Also, my last advice which I always found to be quick and effective is just to literally walk away from situation to remove yourself from whatever is frustrating you to avoid making things worse. For example, your sibling spills some water on you as oppose to shouting at them and yelling obscenities- you could just excuse yourself and go into a different room to give yourself time to calm down.

I have a younger brother whom I haven’t spoken to in almost 6 years because of his inability to control his anger. One day during an argument (over text of all places) something inside of me just died toward him and I haven’t looked back. I have a daugther now whom I have tried hard to keep away from him. We see each other at family gatherings but I no longer acknowledge him.

Only you can control how you behave and respond around others. And they are in control of whether or not they wish to be around you.

You sound like a great older sibling! Here’s to always you being you! Cheers!

I agree, it’s not about the price of the gift. But it also has to do with how the receiver behaves when they get such a gift. For example, if someone spends hours making a bracelet and the receiver gets it and acts like they like it but when they leave they don’t even bother to take the bracelet with them when they go home…after a while people just stop giving. Or at least stop making stuff for that person.

I have a huge family and not everyone in my family (adults) could afford to get gifts for everyone. If we were to place gifts in front of the giver - I think this would totally single out a few people and make them feel bad for not having gifts to hand out to everyone. Just overall not a good idea for my family.