I never understood why people leased cars. It's like being in an HOA. Someone gets to give you guidelines on what to do with something you're paying for!

Oh well.

If you're paranoid about being upside down on your Toyota after 3 years, you're gonna be in a worrrrrrld of pain when you get that BMW or Audi past 30k miles lol.

It sounds like you've made up your mind. Choose a car to lease for 3 years, give it back to the dealer, get that beamer, instant buyer's remorse, sell it back at a fraction you bought it for, and then buy a used Corolla.

Nothing anyone says here will change your mind.