Bryanormike
Bryanormike t1_ja9ga65 wrote
Ask him. This is a good chance to grow up and start learning to be direct.
Otherwise you can sit and hope.
Bryanormike t1_j6nl5f2 wrote
Reply to comment by According-Witness-41 in My (22M) girlfriend (22F) lied about deleting the socials of a guy who hit on her by [deleted]
She only confessed to you because she realized she was caught. She did not do it because it's about trust or because she wants you to trust her more, or she would've brought it up initially or when first confronted.
You specifically mentioned she originally doubled down. Then, when you revealed evidence/proof, she was lying suddenly she was lying to avoid having that conversation with you.
As the other person said. If you hadn't confronted her about this she would've been fine and happy lying to your face about this.
I'm not saying she would've cheated on you or not. But she wants you to trust her when she blatantly lied to your face multiple times. She's playing you.
It's like someone stabbing you in the back. You turn around and they have a knife in their back and they tell you to turn around. They promise they won't stab you again. It doesn't make sense.
Btw the more I read it your did handle it very immaturely, but it still doesn't change that she's playing you.
Bryanormike t1_j6nh3ax wrote
Reply to comment by According-Witness-41 in My (22M) girlfriend (22F) lied about deleting the socials of a guy who hit on her by [deleted]
You are being played here. Yes it does sound like you may have handled it a bit immaturely but it doesn't change that she's playing you.
Bryanormike t1_j6n7kam wrote
Reply to comment by bouletten_gobbler300 in Boyfriend (22m) is blissfully ignorant about the state of the world and my (18f) existential fears by [deleted]
Okay then, tell him exactly that. And if he still keeps saying just vote better then you reconsider how it makes you feel being in a relationship with him.
Bryanormike t1_j6n3scb wrote
Reply to Boyfriend (22m) is blissfully ignorant about the state of the world and my (18f) existential fears by [deleted]
Part of dating someone is seeing their views and opinions political or otherwise and comparing them to yours.
Are you trying to explain your feelings on his opinions, or are you trying to change his opinion? Mostly because they're vastly different approaches.
Bryanormike t1_iyf8ro0 wrote
In the future, you don't need to go through all this to leave someone. It sounds like you didn't trust him and had some decent reason. You don't need 100% concrete proof.
You did do well by leaving him once you found out.
Bryanormike t1_iyccqqr wrote
Reply to comment by kerkasmokecrack in Asked gf a question multiple times and she started yelling at me by [deleted]
Sounds like you both struggle to communicate a bit. In your post you say you ask her non seriously (what the hell does that mean) but then you got serious when it made her upset.
Youre both dancing around just being serious. I can see why you'd be annoyed if you feel like you can't have a serious conversation about your relationship but you're doing this as you're describing how you failed to start off a serious conversation. Which is equally as annoying.
Try this next time. Sit her down and tell her you want to have a serious conversation about you two having trouble communicating. How you want to stop dancing around serious topics. Every time you want to have a serious conversation you yourself need to be serious. Rather than ask a question repeatedly point out that they're ignoring the question and tell them how it makes you feel.
Again. The way you went about things is pretty accusatory and the way you speak about the guy makes it sound like you do think some kind of way. So you can idk tell me you trust her but your post is basically a big ass "idk my girlfriend being a lil sus" post.
Bryanormike t1_iyc78iq wrote
Reply to comment by kerkasmokecrack in Asked gf a question multiple times and she started yelling at me by [deleted]
She probably got annoyed because it's not a funny joke, especially when you keep repeating it.
Again you had something to say so rTher than repeatedly asking the question childishly you should've told her that you wanted a serious discussion.
It's no surprise she got annoyed or angry at you. It's a very childish way to go about things. Especially when you're basically saying you don't trust her or what you're gonna try to spin it as you don't trust him.
Bryanormike t1_iyc2c9p wrote
You are equally disrespecting your partner in such a childish way and its not good for either of you. Stop "joking" when it sounds like you have something to actually say.
Just say it.
Bryanormike t1_iuiu6yd wrote
Reply to comment by WeeklyConversation8 in Friend is a single mom with no job and won’t stop spending. by VictreeS
Those are very shitty Facebook memes. I dont doubt there's some people who take it seriously, but they're most likely the minority.
Bryanormike t1_iuimo8s wrote
Quite frankly, yes, sit back or cut contact. It's not really your business unless she specifically asks for advice on it.
I hate to put it that bluntly but if you don't like it you don't have to be her friend. Or just tell her you don't want to hear about her spending habits.
Sure, it may not seem smart. But that's a different conversation.
Bryanormike t1_ja9h1dq wrote
Reply to comment by ArsonIsFun69 in I’m (19f) talking to a guy (20m) and i can’t tell what he wants by ArsonIsFun69
You very well may get rejected and that sucks so mentally try to prepare for that. But it's better than sitting there doing nothing hoping the other person just magically makes a move.
Tbh you can just start by saying something as simple as hey, I like you and think you're cute. Would you want to go on a date?
Now again he may say no but at least then you can start movin on or just being friends or w e