>I think he should take time for himself and have no contact with either of us to know what he really wants.
I think this is actually what you should do. Take a big step back and communicate that. I'd say it may feel like love but lust is extremely powerful as are hormones and other stuff. And even if it is love then you can still love him and not be with him. Have a break to be yourself by yourself. It's easy to become tangled up in other people's life paths and wants and then become convinced you want it and chose to be there. If it's meant to be then you'll feel the same after a long time apart and can analyse again then. But generally I'd say there's definitely a few red flags from him here and that means you need to cut emotional ties and step back for a bit so that you can view it clearly without the blurry love glasses on. It's your life and it's precious and fast, you can't imagine what the future holds. It's your life and you're worth more than someone's 2nd choice or 3rd wheel. It's your life and there will be more to it than this guy and this job. It's your life OP!
Burrtles t1_je0333s wrote
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>I think he should take time for himself and have no contact with either of us to know what he really wants.
I think this is actually what you should do. Take a big step back and communicate that. I'd say it may feel like love but lust is extremely powerful as are hormones and other stuff. And even if it is love then you can still love him and not be with him. Have a break to be yourself by yourself. It's easy to become tangled up in other people's life paths and wants and then become convinced you want it and chose to be there. If it's meant to be then you'll feel the same after a long time apart and can analyse again then. But generally I'd say there's definitely a few red flags from him here and that means you need to cut emotional ties and step back for a bit so that you can view it clearly without the blurry love glasses on. It's your life and it's precious and fast, you can't imagine what the future holds. It's your life and you're worth more than someone's 2nd choice or 3rd wheel. It's your life and there will be more to it than this guy and this job. It's your life OP!