Don’t be gentle. If he cares for his mom and is aware of what healthy accommodations look like then he needs to help her instead of trying to make you live in filth.

He is incorrect, you absolutely do not have to get used to it! I’m assuming you’re not exaggerating and this is indeed a serious hoard. He needs to get help if he thinks you just need to adapt to the filth. Don’t go! If you do, check expiration dates on anything you eat and sniff meat products.

Cause she’s NOT committed. I’ve been friends with these girls my whole life. Every guy is the best once they get together but somehow they are still looking for bester. And they were not receptive to advice. Some people just aren’t ready. Why do they pretend to want it and hurt people? I don’t know.

It happens. The merciful dump you and move on. The cruel just cheat. The cowards stay and resent you. It’s not cheating. If someone meets a person they prefer and leave it just them leaving. I think you’re better of considering the options. You need someone who isn’t still looking. She obviously was keeping her options open. She isn’t LTR material.

No. She dumped you instead of cheating. I don’t see how it matters. I hurts either way. Focus on you. You’re in for it, healing is hard.

I wouldn’t do it. What you did sucked but sucked in proportion to your age and how much you still had to learn. On the other hand, she is still with this man. It is absolutely possible that he has grown up, all is well and the three of you will have a good laugh. It is also possible that things are as abusive as ever and you’ll set of something bad. My advice is to reignite the friendship and see what’s going on before you bring up how abusive you thought her man was in high-school.