I’m sorry that happened to you, hope you’re doing okay though

I added some more info at the end of the post. I didn’t mean let’s be friends first, than become partners. Just keep the pressure low by thinking of your first date as having fun and casually getting to know each other and not “having to meet the one”. :)

Could you elaborate on that? Would like to hear your perspective :)

I’m not necessarily saying start as friends, than become partners. More like just don’t put pressure on first dates to meet “the one”. Go to your first date with a mindset like: I am just going to hang out with (hopefully) a nice person. If it romantically/sexually clicks, then hell yeah. If it doesn’t? No wasted time, still enjoyed hanging out with this person.

That way you take the pressure away of having to meet the right/perfect person, and just enjoy the company you have right now.

I can understand where you’re coming from! I am a very serious type when it comes to dating. I won’t just keep romantically hang out with someone if I know it’s not going to be it for the long game. That would be unfair for the both of us.

But when you start dating someone, my advice would be to not try to find your soulmate at the first few dates. The new people you meet, the new things you might learn… it should never feel like utterly wasted time!

Even my lesser dates were interesting in some way. Sometimes it just gave me a good laugh afterwards, other times I found new placed in the town I lived in for over 10 years and some of them taught me new things or gave me refreshing insights, even when I would definitely not see them as long term romantic partners!

Hope this clears up my post a bit!