Porn addiction can have a negative impact on your actual sex life.

You could do it anonymously. I've been that girl before and I couldn't care less who told me. I just wish someone did.

Oh, yuck.

I'd tell him he's being a dick and to tell both girls the whole truth.

1. Get therapy
2. Find a job that will pay bills
3. Continue to pursue streaming and content creation in your spare time

Also keep in my mind what your lack of self esteem would do to a partner even if she agreed to be with you. It doesn't make for a healthy relationship.

I'm so sorry to hear that happened. My condolences.

Please get yourself help with therapy rather than resign yourself to a life of no self worth. You can be someone's first choice too.

Up to you. Definitely the self destructive option and will lead to self esteem issues. Waiting for someone who doesn't like you back is dumb.

This is just you trying to justify you staying around with her. I'm saying it's your choice to be around her, just know that you'll be a backup option.

This is irrelevant

Well just so you know, if this keeps going you're just staying there as her backup option whether she intends to or not. It's cruel to want someone to have unrequited feelings for you.

To be frank - no means no. Thinking anything else makes you creepy. If you have feelings for her and you can't be friends with her, then don't be. You're not obligated to

Your relationship and situation has changed, there's no real reason to "maintain the status quo" if you now just split it like I said there's no need to speculate at whether what you're doing is fair, if the imbalance is too much or too little.

Don't see why you're separating so many things. Why not add both rents, bills and travelling costs and split that by percentage of your incomes? Since she works less but has to spend more time travelling, the time side of things seem more or less even already.

The one being obnoxious and unpleasant is you. I hope you take all these comments to heart and actually reconsider your stance. The world doesn't revolve around you nor your CF lifestyle. You probably think people with kids can be overbearing about their choice but you're doing the same thing.

What doe she say in response?

Jesus Christ dude. Your wife had major surgery. Look after her instead of thinking about fucking another girl. It's only a few months. I can't imagine recovering from surgery and have my husband worry the most about this instead.

Why didn't you include her reason when you ask?

Personally, I think you're putting too much pressure on him. You mention he does chores, and has a job (since he makes money?) So how are you needing to mother him? Seems like what you're demanding all the time is just expressions of love in the way that you want. To be honest I think it's useless to try to change someone.

Change the boyfriend? Don't be with someone who tells you you're too fat when you're skinny already. That's it. Have some self respect.

Have you even told him you posted all those NSFW pics online?

You cannot change her. Or anyone. There's problematic behaviours from both parties, but at least one thing is clear that you're not compatible.

I don't think you're a prick for thinking the relationship has run its course for you and you want to go separate ways. You'll be a prick if you keep this up for much longer - don't you think she deserves someone who loves and wants to be with her? It's not you anymore.

You've been together for a fairly long time. I would 100% be very upset not to go on a romantic holiday with my partner... I can't imagine what he's gonna do on that trip by himself. TBH I wouldnt want to be with someone who would do this at this stage in the relationship. If I were in his shoes I'd go on, say, a 3 star hotel trip for two rather than a luxurious trip for one.

Break it off sooner rather than later. It will be better for both of you

Why would the problem be you? Those Chinese people she won't see often. She sees you all the time, it's plausible she just doesn't want to embarrass herself in front of you. does it bother you that she doesn't speak English to you ever? If so you better make that clear