Coco_Dirichlet
Coco_Dirichlet t1_jdtpc3d wrote
He has no self control? Can't he ask? How did he eat chocolates for a whole class by himself?
Coco_Dirichlet t1_j6p2nkq wrote
You are an idiot. You broke up and now you want to send a message to see if she comes back groveling to get you back.
You are making all about you. It was so haaaaard. What do you want? An applause?
Coco_Dirichlet t1_j2ezh8m wrote
Reply to [35M][37F][4.5F] My wife wants to change our daughter’s middle name to her surname. I am hesitant, but want to compromise. Any advice? by KJEveryday
Why not add a hyphenated last name to both kids?
Why do you have a problem with this? Also, if she wants to do the middle name, just have your daughter have 2 middle names.
You are making a problem out of nothing and this is typically American shit naming conventions. In other countries people have 2 last names (or more) and multiple middle names.
Coco_Dirichlet t1_j2ekwlj wrote
Reply to [40m] [35f] we are 2 people in a monogamous marraige. his fettish is killing the marraige. by Tight-Cut-4606
Why are you a doormat? Why do you avoid conversations and tell him "no, I will never do that"? Why do you not believe what he says and prefer to live in fantasy land?
This started 3 years ago. You ignored it, even had a baby, and then kept ignoring it? You had sex with him while he was saying all of that, putting you off, and you still kept having sex with him? Why? Why didn't you tell him, no, I'm not into that, then stop having sex and leave the room?
Your husband doesn't respect your boundaries. Your husband doesn't respect you. I can tell you with 90% certainty that if he sees you with another man, then he'll become insecure and blame you for his own insecurity. The number of times on reddit and elsewhere in which men are mad at their wive's for having a good time because they had sex with someone else is huge. Or then, he'll tell you that since you fucked someone, now he can go fuck another woman to be even.
This is fucking mess and the worst part is that you have a one year old baby that you are putting in the middle of this time bomb.
Get a grip! Tell him he is out of his fucking mind.
You are also putting yourself in a very dangerous situation. What if they spring on you and want you to have sex with this man and you freeze? It's a very common reaction, so you freeze, he has sex with you even if you don't want to but you are unable to say no, they don't ask for your consent. Then what?
Coco_Dirichlet t1_j2ej53n wrote
She can take you to court and do all the DNA test through the courts. It's just dumb to wait 2 years without saying anything to anyone.
Coco_Dirichlet t1_j1j9f2b wrote
Reply to comment by scruffyfatguy in TIFU by asking about my wife's dog by scruffyfatguy
I'd say your daughter is smart lol
Coco_Dirichlet t1_j1fapzd wrote
Your father still has to pay child support if your aunt is going to take you in. You are in high school so the fact that you are 18 is irrelevant. You can take him to court for it and he might have to pay until you graduate college, depending on where you live.
Coco_Dirichlet t1_iuq98d4 wrote
You can record the IG live with your phone and take it to school. In some locations, what students do outside of school against other students is consider bullying. It doesn't have to happen inside the school for them to take actions.
I would go to a school counselor, give them the videos, tell them how they all did a dare and what this guy did (pretending to be your BF). They are all in school and this also went on in school too. Maybe pressure from all of that, he'll give you the necklace back. This can potentially go on their records and it would be shared with colleges.
That's what I would do.
Coco_Dirichlet t1_isbdj0s wrote
Reply to comment by pumpkinsmasher76 in [D] How can a prospective PhD applicant gain ML-related research experience beforehand? by pumpkinsmasher76
Start by asking people who wrote your letters about what opportunities they know about. Maybe they received an email through a listserv (many conferences and associations have them). Also, ask them advice on how make your application package stronger.
Google works like: predoctoral fellowship "computer science"
This is an example of what you'd get from a search like that: https://allenai.org/predoctoral-young-investigators
There are more.
There's also this website that has more of this predocs and RA ooportunities: https://predoc.org/ -- Some are data science with applications to social sciences; also, check information about applications and free workshops. Even if it's not specific to ML, it's still useful.
Also, make some saved searches on LinkedIn for universities and computer science. Some Labs will put their Lab searches there.
Coco_Dirichlet t1_irlahv8 wrote
Reply to [D] How can a prospective PhD applicant gain ML-related research experience beforehand? by pumpkinsmasher76
This is not just about your lack of research experience, it's a compounded problem because what are professors going to write in their recommendation letters?
(a) Your GPA is low so did you standout in the class of those writing your letters; strong letters compare you to other students (you are in the top % of students they have taught in the past X years) and even better to other students who got admitted to PhD programs.
(b) You want to apply to PhDs with a focus on ML but have only one ML course. Yes, taking a grad student class is good, but it's one course.
(c) The research experience with the professor/postdoc wasn't enough to make any contribution. So that professor whatever that professor can write is not going to be enough.
Experience at your place of work is not going to be important because there's nothing you can show in your application. It'd only matter if (a) you were working in a place like DeepMind and were a coauthor in some paper, (b) your manager had a PhD and tons of publications, so someone in academia knows them and would believe this person when they said "this person would be successful in your program".
One option is to find a full-time job as an RA at a Lab. It won't pay much but you'd be getting experience, you can audit some classes, and you can get a much better letter.
Another option is to do masters. If you decide to go for a masters, then you need to really focus on class size, whether the professor is going to be someone who is a full-time professor (so no an adjunct or someone with a masters) whose letters would matter for a PhD application.
But really think why you want the PhD.
> Should I continue to ask professors in nearby universities
I doubt professor will respond requests from someone they don't know. Taking someone as a RA is work for them or their postdoc, because they have to train you, oversee your work, etc. You are not doing them a favor by working for free. At least with their own students, they can get some funding or it's part of their job because they are students enrolled in their program.
Coco_Dirichlet t1_je89478 wrote
Reply to TIFU by planning my husband's 40th birthday party by [deleted]
Give him divorce papers wrapped up for his birthday present.
He is lying about not using prostitutes! Check his bank accounts.