Corgi_Cake
Corgi_Cake t1_j2fgjx1 wrote
Pressured to marry, but not at all prepared for the sacrifices and concessions and extra care it takes to live together long-term. Your partner is not being respectful of your needs and its not going to get better without intervention.
When things have settled after new year's sit him down for a serious conversation and explain that this lifestyle isn't working for you. Your sensory issues are part of who you are, and you shouldn't be expected to isolate yourself in a room while he hosts loud parties. If he can't see things from your perspective then start taking steps to seperate. Put yourself before anyone else.
Corgi_Cake t1_j2fdwmo wrote
You're not his mother and you're not his maid. Its entirely justified that you expect your partner to contribute equally around the house. Thats basically all that needs saying.
From my perspective you are making a mistake by focusing on his gaming and implying that his "unwinding time" is a problem in itself. He will use that against you in any argument. The fact is that he isn't holding up his end of household responsibilities, and the reasons for that are largely irrelevant. Stay focused on the crux of the matter.
Corgi_Cake t1_j2f37jg wrote
Reply to [22f][25m] Is this because of depression and if so is there anything I could do, or should I give space, or is she just not interested anymore? by [deleted]
Pretty consistent with what you might see from someone with a depressive disorder - though there are many forms, and people exhibit symptoms differently. In the long term it would help to learn as much as you can about the topic.
The question isn't whether or not shes interested. The question is whether or not you can handle the emotional rollercoaster of being with someone that doesn't have their mental state under control. Thats up for you to decide.
When the opportunity to broach the subject presents itself, have a heart to heart conversation about the confusion and anxiety it causes you. The minimum she should provide is an idea of what to expect in the future, and how to best to approach the relationship when shes not feeling well. Asking how to support her is a good thing to do. You should also express your own needs and expectations.
If she isn't even able to have that conversation, then its time to move on. She isn't ready for a relationship and you aren't obligated to stick around while she works on herself.
Corgi_Cake t1_j2ev6i3 wrote
Reply to [23M][23F] My girlfriend doesn't like sex but I like it a lot, are we still compatible? what should I do? by TAPrince_
It is perfectly reasonable to want a physically intimate relationship - especially at your age. This incompatibility will lead to built up resentment, and your relationship will suffer.
Everyone has needs. If shes unwilling or unable to meet your needs, you only have two options: have a serious heart-to-heart conversation and come up with a plan to fix it, or break up now.
If she does not recognize her lack of libido as a problem and says "its just who I am" or "I'm basically asexual" or anything to that effect - she will not try to change. If she recognizes it as a serious problem and wants to take steps to improve, then you have a chance. Be open to making your own changes to increase her sexual desire.
Corgi_Cake t1_iyc0iqy wrote
Reply to i’m falling for someone else by [deleted]
You were texting a girl constantly, and she didn't already know you have a gf? You've already been emotionally cheating. You'll be lucky if either of them would consider dating you after knowing what you've been up to.
Corgi_Cake t1_iuif9jo wrote
Reply to comment by Emilia67 in Why do online friendships always end bad? by Emilia67
Any idea what they found annoying? Obviously they share fault in this sort of thing, but you only have control over your own actions.
Personally I stay clear of people that are too needy in an online friendship. I have a life and other commitments. I might go months without talking to an online friend, then talk to them every day while we play a new game together. Nothing personal, but unless romance is involved there is an unspoken rule that online friendships are super casual. Cross that line and you're bound to push people away.
Corgi_Cake t1_iuidnj3 wrote
Reply to Why do online friendships always end bad? by Emilia67
Maybe your sense of humour/tone don't translate well into the online space and it causes people to pull away from you. Online friendships tend to be easier for a lot of people to maintain, rather than the reverse. There's not as much expectation.
Corgi_Cake t1_jecihej wrote
Reply to My Girfriend [21F] of three years was unfaithful to me [21M] for the second time and idk what to do? by [deleted]
Its over bud. You dont get that trust back. End it and start the process of moving on.
Trauma or upbringing aren't excuses for cheating. And make no mistake, what shes doing is cheating. Its irrelevant whether or not she actually hooked up with these guys.