I would approach it from a place of concern for him or a boundary.
Ask him if he is doing ok, as you have noticed how negative he is seeing his achievements. Are you and your friends giving him high standards, is he afraid to miss out or does he have to be the best at everything?
Either he will open up or be embarresed that you are concerned. Eiter way, you hopefully get him to stop.
Or you state a clear boundary: You really like him as a friend but his competitiveness makes competitive activies Hard for all of you, so he either changes or you will no longer invite him.
DazzlingLetterhead66 t1_j6lyxjf wrote
Reply to LPT Request: How to tell a friend that their negative talk (raging) needs to stop? by swishphish1
I would approach it from a place of concern for him or a boundary. Ask him if he is doing ok, as you have noticed how negative he is seeing his achievements. Are you and your friends giving him high standards, is he afraid to miss out or does he have to be the best at everything? Either he will open up or be embarresed that you are concerned. Eiter way, you hopefully get him to stop.
Or you state a clear boundary: You really like him as a friend but his competitiveness makes competitive activies Hard for all of you, so he either changes or you will no longer invite him.
There will be no change without some pain