I know. I also told him that long distance cant last forever and that with this tempo it looks like it will stay like that. He is wasting my money and his money, our time and nerves on our visits for no reason if he has no intention for us to live together

Thank you. I also told him that his actions tell me what he thinks about our relationship. I am aware that I was pushing him maybe too much, to get a job and try to move out, but if he wants a life with me like he says he does, he should do it. My family who has less money then his is ready to help us financialy and get a loan for the visa, and I just feel embarrassed how inmature he is acting about that.