Measured response, pretty much agree.

On it's own, morality is humanity's attempt at creating a ruleset for society that promotes cooperation for survival, rather than a society that thrives on power and influence exclusively. Religion ultimately twists this for control over its worshipers in the worst cases, which is pretty ironic.

We're uniquely capable of contemplating the consequences of our actions thanks to the sheer luck of having complex brains. Working with your neighbor on a hunt, rather than fighting him to steal his captured game, would likely be more beneficial in the long term. Nothing about the content of our collective morality is special, but more or less convenient, and the things we think are "bad" could have ended up as "good" if they had worked out favorably.

Oooh, thank you, that explains way more. Yeah this is an absolute mess.

I'm curious what seemed to be the rush to get married. Marriage isn't this fairytale bookend to relationships like we're lead to believe. While you two may do great together, you have so much life left to establish who you are as individuals. It's not impossible to achieve, but look at where you are now: on Reddit making a post to figure out how to handle a complex situation that would otherwise be solvable by experience and maturity. There's a lot more growth that has to happen, and you and your husband really need to sit down and talk with everyone so everyone can really hear each other.