Well I left open the possibility that maybe it's an open relationship, though that seems kind of doubtful. Him specifically requesting a "discreet" FWB seems off if that's the case. Sure, she could be cheating, who knows. But she also requested a divorce a year ago after he suggested she sleep with a woman.

So idk. There seems to be so much missing from this post that could provide really helpful context.

It might not be a PPD issue. OP asked her to have sex with a woman a year ago and she requested a divorce afterwards. He also has repeatedly posted in r4r subs describing his dick size and asking for a "discreet" female "fuckbuddy."

It sounds like there's a lot of contextual info conveniently left out of this post that really skews what is written here.

> If she’s not in a massive bout of PPD then she’s either cheated or is cheating

OP has repeatedly posted in an r4r sub describing his dick size and requesting a female "fuck buddy." Just to give some more context.

OP has repeatedly posted in New Jersey r4r subs describing the size of his dick and requesting a female "fuck buddy" - specifically a "discreet" one.

Sounds like he's the one who's interested in someone else.

Everyone suggesting the wife is cheating should know that just last month OP posted in the New Jersey r4r sub with the following ("Hung white muscular male looking for a fuck buddy all times of the day. No drama, no bullshit. FEMALES ONLY. Message me and I’ll send picture").

He also made several posts in 2021 asking for nudes from OnlyFans girls.

Who knows, maybe they're in an open relationship and his wife knows he's doing all this and is ok with it. But maybe not.

Also, a year ago he apparently suggested she have sex with a woman, and she responded by requesting a divorce.

There is a LOT of information missing from this post.

Edit: Oh, and in December he posted in the New Jersey r4r sub as well, with the following: "30 (M4F) very attractive hung jacked white male in Warren county. Looking for discreet FWB, insanely horny. Willing to travel"

I mean, considering OP posted last month in the New Jersey 4fr sub with the following ("Hung white muscular male looking for a fuck buddy all times of the day. No drama, no bullshit. FEMALES ONLY. Message me and I’ll send picture"), I'm more concerned about him cheating than her.

> he deleted the post lol

Oh it was already deleted when I found it. I used the camas unddit tool.

Honestly, they both should probably not be together. A couple weeks ago he posted that she works 100+ hours a week to support their family of 4 kids and he doesn't consider it as her supporting the family. (To be clear, he did work most of their marriage while she stayed home with the kids).

She was also 19 and he was 25 when they got married and when she first got pregnant with the first of 4 children, which makes me wonder how old she was when they started dating. Additionally, according to other deleted posts in his history, he's been looking to hook up with multiple other women.

He also smashed her phone and assaulted a client his wife was having a conversation with. Apparently he drove to her workplace at 1:30am at night and beat the guy up then grabbed her phone and "smashed it into pieces." Edit: The same guy he mentions in this post whom she was sitting on the couch with talking to with the door open, it sounds like.

He says in another comment his wife has sent photos of herself in the lingerie to the client, so it does sound like she's cheating. But sounds like OP has tried to multiple times as well and their marriage sounds extremely unhealthy - not just on her end.

This current post presents a very one-sided view of their relationship. Neither of them are in the right, and I'm concerned for their kids. They have 4 young children, their mom sounds like she's cheating on their dad, their dad sounds like he's trying to cheat on their mom, and their dad violently assaulted someone and broke his wife's property. Cheating is wrong, but violence is too.

One of his previous posts.

https://www.unddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/10dkof5/30m_24f_looking_for_honest_opinions_and_what/

Your boyfriend has repeatedly watched sexual footage of your ex against your wishes and against your ex's consent. This is not okay. Your ex did not consent to have your boyfriend view footage or images of him.

I don't think it's your boyfriend's possible hurt feelings or jealousy you should be worried about. It doesn't matter if he will be "really sad" if you delete these things - you should delete them because it's the ethical and moral thing to do. This isn't fair to your ex nor to you.