Marriage doesn’t make it a happy or healthy relationship, it just means they are married. Also, there are a lot of people who think that marriage/a baby will “fix” an unhealthy or broken relationship.

I can’t say that she’s “after” your husband, but her behavior isn’t okay and your gut is picking up in these cues. Keep communicating with your husband about how she makes you both feel and focus on your marriage. He might have to go to HR about her if she doesn’t stop.

Maybe take your friend up on the offer to get some space to decompress and think. It must be hard being in the same house with her even if you are sleeping in the couch.

Also, if you decide to stay in your home, she should take the couch and you get the bed. It’s her fuck up after all.

Sorry you’re dealing with this.