Guilty_Hunter9304

Guilty_Hunter9304 t1_j2ev165 wrote

It isn't fate, it's a gigantic mess. Fate would be if you had bumped into her on the street and you just reconnected. You found them on Facebook (which means you were looking for them).

Not fate, you're just another spouse cheating on her husband looking for reasons to try and validate it.

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Guilty_Hunter9304 t1_iyen0i8 wrote

From someone who's wife is more experienced (variety wise) than I was when we got together I think it's best for you to be open with him about your desires in bed and then let him take the lead regarding the pace that things go. Maybe just start with different positions, nothing crazy at first.

It might take him a good while to come around, but I believe he will eventually

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Guilty_Hunter9304 t1_iuk8z7i wrote

Being addicted to porn isn't a whole lot different than being addicted to substances. The mental part gets you "high". I myself am a porn addict, which is just one level of sex addiction. I'd be very skeptical of him saying "he's cured". Alcoholics don't just get better, it's a challenge to retain one's sobriety. He isn't just magically fixed

Once an addict, always one.

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