Back in my late 20s/early 30s, I was on a couple of different dating websites. Can't remember the name of the site this story relates to, but it was the one that allowed you to send free 'icebreakers' - short sets of questions for the other person to answer (or, more likely, ignore) - or a sort of 'nudge', either of which just to get them to take a look at your profile, and then you'd only pay the communication fees if you both wanted to start emailing them via the site's own internal system.
Anyway... I used to get both icebreakers and nudges fairly regularly, though probably less than 1 in 10 got any further than my initial response... Still better odds than when I sent either, but that's another story.
This one woman sent me an icebreaker... Not the most interesting choice of questions, but it was enough to get me looking at her profile. As the site advised, she had plenty of photos...
...And literally every single one of them was of her in a bar or club, evidently having a good time, but also very clearly out-of-her-skull drunk. Other profiles might have had photos of the person out and about during the day - in a park, on holiday in another country, at the beach, larking about with a pet, whatever... SOME sign of a life and/or interests outside of bars and clubs, and getting absolutely hammered. She was physically attractive, but the way she presented herself was one big red flag.
That was one of the very few icebreakers I didn't bother responding to.
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Back in my late 20s/early 30s, I was on a couple of different dating websites. Can't remember the name of the site this story relates to, but it was the one that allowed you to send free 'icebreakers' - short sets of questions for the other person to answer (or, more likely, ignore) - or a sort of 'nudge', either of which just to get them to take a look at your profile, and then you'd only pay the communication fees if you both wanted to start emailing them via the site's own internal system.
Anyway... I used to get both icebreakers and nudges fairly regularly, though probably less than 1 in 10 got any further than my initial response... Still better odds than when I sent either, but that's another story.
This one woman sent me an icebreaker... Not the most interesting choice of questions, but it was enough to get me looking at her profile. As the site advised, she had plenty of photos...
...And literally every single one of them was of her in a bar or club, evidently having a good time, but also very clearly out-of-her-skull drunk. Other profiles might have had photos of the person out and about during the day - in a park, on holiday in another country, at the beach, larking about with a pet, whatever... SOME sign of a life and/or interests outside of bars and clubs, and getting absolutely hammered. She was physically attractive, but the way she presented herself was one big red flag.
That was one of the very few icebreakers I didn't bother responding to.