Well, you're an adult, and you have an adult problem. The thing that you should do is to get your dad alone, and tell him that Emily has started texting you, and that you'd prefer not to be a part of his "other" life, as it makes you uncomfortable.

I suspect that he'll accept that info from you and handle things from his end, and you'll no longer get texts from Emily. If not, simply block her.

However, there needs to come a time when you disclose to your bf the dynamic that exists in your family, and the reasons it exists. I know you're hesitant because of the dynamics of his family, but his family is an ideal to strive for.

As for your father, it's obvious that he was unwilling to live in a "sterile" relationship, and sought love outside the marriage, and no doubt your mom is fed up with the relationship as well. It would probably have been better for all involved had a divorce taken place regardless of a sibling that's on the spectrum. Had that occurred, your mom and dad would now at least be amicable.

I wish you well.

Well, whatever you decide, understand that your hubby needs to tell his mom that HE's marrying you, not his mom, and if she continues on the course she's taken, she'll never get to hold the grandchildren that you birth. Now, I understand the importance of family in Latin America, and that what "the family" thinks is to be taken seriously, but you and he have, for over eight years allowed "family thinking" to keep you apart, only to continually bump into each other. Perhaps that fact alone should be an indication to his mom that God has made His desires known. If she is unsure, then SHE should consult a priest, and possibly be told the same thing I mentioned.

However it turns out, I wish you and your fiance' well.

It's time for you to sit her down and have The Talk. During The Talk, you should outline all the hours you work, the fact that she's not even attempting to find a job, and the fact that she doesn't work means that she has plenty of time to do ALL the household chores, and that henceforward that was exactly what you were expecting of her, no excuses, period. If she's defiant about the situation, you should invite her absence. Enough is enough. Be part of the team, or be part of the trash. Trash gets thrown out.

'Nuff said.

What you need to understand is that she looks at everyone in her orbit as a potential source of money or "stuff", be it food, groceries, clothing, etc. She's already proved that to you, and be certain she's used others in the same way. She's a "Karen" in the making, feeling entitled to anything she desires, and as her child ages, she will come to resent him/her as the child will require a steadily increasing amount of resources, and the time may come when CPS is forced to put her child in foster care.

Were I you, I'd gradually withdraw from her life, to the point where you are LC or NC with her, as you will cease being her friend, and simply become a "mark" to draw from.

I wish you well.

Well, there's one sure way to find out. Call Bella and talk with her. Tell her up front that you're confused and hurt by the ways she's been interacting with you, and that you really want to know what has caused her to act in this manner.

Your decision on whether or not to attend their wedding should be based on what Bella reveals. If she's forthcoming, great; perhaps you can deal with any issues she has with you. If her communication is cold, or distant, then you will know that your response to the RSVP will be 'non'.