HangryBeard
HangryBeard t1_iuh9445 wrote
Reply to An issue I’ve sadly been experiencing when reading fiction/fantasy more and more with passing time by whocaresfuckthisshit
I feel as if you might be taking fiction only at face value. I read mostly fiction for the allegory. Most authors have something impactful to say hiding right beneath the surface. Many authors I find especially sci Fi authors don't bother hiding it much at all. Some examples of this are 1984, A Brave New World, and Fahrenheit 451. All of which I strongly suggest you to read if you haven't. Look beyond the unreal story friend and search for the authors purpose
I also must confess I do enjoy also using fiction as an escape. Reality kind of sucks sometimes and I'd rather be somewhere else if just for an hour or two, but to each thier own I hope you find books you value and enjoy reading
HangryBeard t1_iuhc7ff wrote
Reply to Which book or series taught your teenage self the most about sex? by kindafunnylookin
None, besides the Godfather making me learn how to hide an awkward boner in 9th grade. Books are not the greatest choice anyways when it comes to learning about sex. It's very much an on the job training type of thing. But if you are thinking about having sex and are worried about looking like a complete and utter dunce, familiarize yourself with the all the bits through the internet. NOT PORN but diagrams of what's what and what's sensitive. Maybe an article on how to do something or what to be careful of. Then again partners can be significantly different and things that work for one couple may not work for you.
Honestly the best way to learn about sex is none of the above, but rather through open communication with your partner in the bedroom. It might be clumsy at first. that's ok. No one expects you to be Casanova your first time. Pay attention to how your partner responds to touches and listen when tell to do or not to do something and be open with what you will and won't do without feeling pressured to do something that makes you uncomfortable.
In a more personal note make sure it means something. Make sure they mean something. You are going to remember that moment with absolute clarity for probably the rest of your life so make it a good memory.
Ok friend sorry if that's more than you asked for. But I felt it needed saying. Have fun learning about the birds and the bees whatever your route.