Your comment has been the most helpful, thank you

You don’t seem to understand how this could be upsetting, so we don’t need to continue. Thanks for your suggestion.

“I would totally judge you if you were gay” “Yeah I would disown you if you were gay” “Woah, that’s super homophobic…” “Yup! Everyone in this family is.”

I didn’t really know what to say after that.

Uh, because in their hearts they don’t respect or value my sister, as a human being… This is upsetting… and would be more than upsetting to my sister if she found out.

She put boundaries down about that stuff, but honestly we’re both shocked and still unsure what to do long term.

So far this is the initial step. Don’t have a feeling of closure about this though and it’s weighing on me.

They have never met. But marriage is a merging of families, so it will happen eventually. Regardless, there may come a day where I have to look my sister in the eyes and say I knowingly brought homophobes into our family?

As a pansexual she was extremely hurt and sad.

She is not whatsoever. She’s pansexual. They said it when she was out of the room.

This is the first time this has happened.