HorrorNeedleworker87

HorrorNeedleworker87 t1_iyf7ll4 wrote

I don’t think this is the case for everyone or even most people - seems like this is specific to your situation (or maybe it has only been a couple years?) I very rarely think about my most devastating heartbreak anymore, and when I do I don’t feel sadness. Just don’t want OP to think they’ll necessarily never get over it bc that seems unlikely to me.

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HorrorNeedleworker87 t1_iyf756m wrote

I know it can be hard if you’re in high school but if you have the chance to make more friends I’d definitely focus on that (especially over dating). If you’re in a situation where that’s not really possible it’s also an opportunity to throw yourself into hobbies (again easier said than done though if you’re in a really low place). I just wonder if you can shift in little ways, like from watching YouTube videos to movies.

But more important than either of those is just to feel your feelings. It’s a process we all have to go through and the first one is often the worst. When you come out of it (and you will, with time), you’ll be that much stronger and more capable of whatever comes at you. It really is a “the only way out is through” situation.

My first big heartbreak was when I was 20 and I lost a bunch of weight, couldn’t do anything… scream sobbed in my dorm. It was DEVASTATING, completely rocked me to my core. It passed, but not before I did all the crying and made a bunch of sad playlists and felt really sorry for myself. And after that I knew I could get through anything.

Avoiding feeling your feelings isn’t going to make it go faster, just make sure you make room for some fun too - like watching movies (I just like this one bc it’s easy) or whatever brings you joy. And check in with yourself about whether you’re actually feeling sad in this exact moment, or whether that has just become comfortable, because that’s a thing too.

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