DAE means "does anybody else" :)

So sometimes on there you'll get posts like "does anyone else get anxious at parties or struggle to do dishes??"

And yes, tons of people with ADHD do struggle with those things! But so do most people. So it's just keeping in mind the difference between having a symptom vs a disorder

Sorry and congratulations friend! Sorry that you getting slapped with the enormous bomb that this might just be part of who you are. But congrats in that you can now begin to support yourself in the way you always needed.

Other things to keep in mind: there are a lot of other diagnoses that can have symptoms similar to ADHD. Including autism and PTSD, especially CPTSD, among others. You may very well not have ADHD. Also although r/ADH his a wonderful sub, there's a lot of "DAE do this very common human activity?". So keep in mind all of this only matters as much as its affecting your life

Even if you do have it, you are in control of what you want to do with your diagnosis. You don't have to tell anyone, get on meds, change your whole personality, any of that. But you might be able to fill in some of the gaps on things you've always wondered about yourself.

You can do it! And you'll be happy that you did. But it's meant to be a resource, not a new cause of stress. So proceed in your own time, however you need to. We're a mostly nice bunch tho!

Join us in r/ADHD lmao

There are dozens of us 🥲

Also I get a lot of comments disagreeing with your last line but I thank you kindly haha

Were you a gifted student out of curiosity? I've noticed an anecdotal trend, where after you've conquered the easy stuff, the idea of struggling through the hard stuff is like a wrecking ball to the self esteem