Damn…. Well that answers a question I just posed to another response. My ex gets defensive and tries to place the blame on me for “overreacting.” We’ve been trying to give it another try and it’s tough. Hurts my heart. She has admitted and acknowledged that she gets defensive automatically. And shows glimpses of affection and consideration/reciprocation to my feelings. But it’s far and few in between. Don’t know whether to be patient or just accept it’s not something I can deal with. She’s 30 I’m 35. Maybe too old to change habits 😞

Thanks for the response. If/when your partner points it out, do you get defensive or take responsibility?

First time posting on this sub, the mod bot has removed a few of my more detailed attempts. Let me clarify-

My ex was recently diagnosed with ADHD. We didn’t work out because she was very indifferent and cold. She admitted she never really seemed to realize she wasn’t aware of my needs or feelings. Not only towards me, but also towards employees she manages at work. I’m just wondering if that’s a common characteristic of people with ADHD or if there’s some other underlying cause.

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