In_shpurrs

In_shpurrs t1_iydapeq wrote

Because it puts both parties at an uneven level. The, say, neurotipical individual* feels the sense to treat the autistic individual as "different". And the autistic person almost gets a carte blanche to do, in a sense whatever s/he may want. "Oh, well, s/he's autistic. I would never accept this behaviour de any other person", vs "I can be as quirky as I want, I said I was autistic ¯⁠\⁠⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠⁠/⁠¯"

If the subject comes up, sure, say it. If it is necessary, sure, why not. But for daily interactions? That's like me going around telling any person I meet, "oh, by the way, I'm a man". I mean, it's a fact; but it's not particularly relevant information when meeting someone.

What I'm trying to say is this: from my experience there is nothing wrong about the artistic people I've met. They tend to be slightly different in approach but that's not a problem to me as I adjust my personality to the person I'm interacting whilst staying myself. (I'm not going to talk to a mate the way I talk to someone I'm trying to have sex with. Basic example to prove a point.)

*The neurotipical individual may not even notice or find anything to be strange about the autistic person. Basically "you"'re saying: treat me different.".

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In_shpurrs t1_iycmm77 wrote

Fair point. I will never not take the time to say that I've found individuals on the autism spectrum to be incredibly fun to talk with. They're fair, honest and funny. They don't need treatment as far as I can tell.

I'm not on the spectrum.

Though one point I'd like to raise with autistic individuals is that they should consider not saying they're autistic.

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In_shpurrs t1_ixqb4sm wrote

Yes, there are. All you need to do is watch out for the trap of being the most brilliant; much like trying to be the most beautiful: there's always someone more beautiful. Want to be the funniest? There's always someone funnier. Think you're the most brilliant? You'll hit a wall when you mest someone smarter. So it goes.

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