Time to make other living arrangements. Take a look at you financial options and see if you can afford your own place.

Until then maybe relocate to do you work at a library or cafe. I understand this is alot and seems like a jump but you didnt marry all them and as half of the relationship, you deserve half of the say with other living with you. You SO show you zero respect with this.

Let him play the victim. Start looking at your options unless he start working with you. You will see how he acts if he has to make a choice

Work to live a better life

Public forum for relationship advice. You get the same as you put out. If its toxic, than many of the replies will be as well.

You care more about your friend than your SO, so being as you posted in an advice forum, that's still my advice.

Some people see this as a game. They desire attention and if your husband is telling her your the important one, its a challenge for her.

The need for attention is an issue many people have

You set yourselves up to do this, It was not an accident.

It was a series of bad choices leading up to the cheating for the both of you.

At this point I think you both deserve each other. Let your SO's know and let them make their own choice and you problems will be solved

Its ok to just send a nice text, even if its to ask them to choose between two choices for dinner, or and other excuse to just let them know you care.

Just leave the topic alone until they are ready again. when Im waiting, I date my wife a little more, just to let her know no matter what, Im there

Life is a marathon, Always keep moving forward. If you keep going backwards, you will keep making the same mistakes

Find someone who makes you their first choice in life

One of the hardest things for me to learn was to give my wife time to process things her own way. I overthink while she is doing this, My mind fills in the blanks where I have no right to fill in yet until she is ready. I still do this to this day.

Sometime just leave that conversation alone for the time being and turn something more positive like a simple I love you, and as long as we are together, we will get thru it.

Support and remind your SO but let them process their own way.

I think your need to test him in the first place says you were not ready for a serous relationship.

If he has said no the the test, but found out it was you later?

Not a great way to grow a healthy relationship

He will use the number, but not asking for help. He will ask her to lunch or coffee next.

Its in the players handbook

Its such a common thing. Go to google and search "if a girl gives you her number is she interested"

Im not saying your GF is interested but many people are just too nice (naive) and this can cause misunderstandings

You mean your EX.

Dude, hanging on to a dead relationship is toxic af

Start with a firm NO

Find someone who values you as much as you do them

The time to "work on it" was when you are together. Not after you break up

Dont send it. let her leave in peace

Overthink again for 1000 Alex

Im not sure why you stay. You live afraid to live a normal life. Walking on eggshells all the time is only waiting for some to break.

I hope you get help for yourself. You deserve to live and enjoy your life

Than I would suggest bring those other issues up with communication. if there was something that triggered the change in her, you should let her know you would like to understand.

this will depend on your wife, not some random people on the internet. now is the time for you to be communicating with her, and if she is not ready, than its your time to wait for her to be ready and let her know that your there for her.