Surely there are other things you like doing together besides watching movies?

I think you may have buried the lede here a bit. If your partner is not interested or invested in improving your sex life, the best tips and ideas aren’t going to mean much. This is something you have to both be working on together.

What does she say when you talk to her about this? Is she not interested in sex at all, or more that she’s fine with the status quo and you want more adventure/frequency?

Was it always like this? A recent change?

I’m confused. He’s a grown adult right? Is there some reason he can’t be alone for a few days? Is he disabled in some way?

Have you tried talking to him about how you’re feeling?

Please move out on your own. This guy may or may not get his act together before you lose interest all together, but you don’t want to hitch your mental and physical wellbeing to his wagon right now!

When someone says directly that they’re unwilling to make any sacrifices for the sake of their future… can there be a clearer sign that this isn’t someone you should be planning a future with?

>how can we compromise?

• He has a tablet or other laptop positioned in his visual field but not visible to you.
• You guys rearrange the furniture so that he can see the tv from where he’s at but you can’t see it from where you’re at.
• You switch work stations.
• You establish that the living room is his workspace from 9-5 (or whatever) and you have a separate room/area that is your workspace. Each of you gets to control what happens in your respective workspaces.

He’s made clear that he’s not interested in your feelings. Do you want to be in a relationship where you’re treated this way?

You say you’re at a loss of what to do, but most people would know exactly what to do: leave.

Being insulted, demeaned, and name-called is a pretty easy dealbreaker for most people.

You get to decide how you want to be treated. If someone is treating you poorly, you either choose to accept it or you stop spending time with that person.

Stop trying to convince him that he’s being hurtful and just tell him, “I will not tolerate being talked to like this, and if you do it one more time I will leave.” And then you have to mean it.

Sounds like it’s time for another talk then

Have you ever talked with her about this at a time when she’s NOT upset?

Get through what?

Are you angry that he failed to read your mind? Angry that he assumed that, since you’ve gone to male strip clubs and he’s been at parties with strippers before and you never said anything about not wanting him to go to strip clubs… that he did not magically intuit that you would be enraged over what sounds like a silly outing with the guys?

You sound controlling, high maintenance, and a bit toxic to be honest.