>I am supposed to meet his parents in March. It's super important to him. I feel terrible to break it off before that.

I don't know why you think it would be better to get his family involved and get their hopes up, and then break it off.

> I broke up with him before many times because of this same issue but we keep getting back together.

So stop getting back together.

>I feel like he is now taking me for granted because he knows that I'll always be there whenever he returns.

See? You're smarter than you think. You already KNOW how he's manipulating you. Now block him everywhere, and move on with your life. It won't be easy, but you have to break this terribly abusive cycle. This isn't love, this is insanity. You deserve better than this, spend some time trying to figure out why you don't believe that.

If? {sigh}

A fifth of whiskey every day, those were your words. That's equivakent to about 16 shots. Every day.

He can't have sex, wants to spend less and less time with you, but uses pretty words occasionally to keep you on the hook. Take as old as time.

Alcoholics get more and more selfish with their time. It never ends well. Never. You are not married, you don't have seven kids with him, you don't own a house together, none of the myriad of reasons people may actually be stuck in a relationship. And you are not the one in a billion exception. You will not change him, and he will not change for you. What you're seeing now is his true colors.

He's an alcoholic. Why are you fighting so hard for this?

What a strange post description. Are they mentioning women and children because that somehow more tragic than if it had just been men?

Then I suggest you two sit down with a doctor and discuss how not to make a baby, because you're doing it all wrong.

>We don't use protection, I don't want to have children until years from now. But she refuses to use condoms, I have told her I'm not going to try the "Pull-out" method because that is something I am not going to risk.

Are you.. mentally deficient?

Your daughter is 4. I find it hard to believe she's that attached to her middle name.

You lose nothing if you change the girl's name, so what's the problem?

I use Citibank, if that's available to you.

Why not just get a reliable bank? I've been using my bank's online bill payment system since its inception, and I've never had a single problem.

Let me get this straight: The wife / medical biller got the bill, saw a procedure that was never performed, and it took a year for them to remove it?

So she wasn't "able to knock thousands off the bill", she found an error and asked them to correct it?

>She does get gov. Assistance

Her bills are paid on my dime, your dime, OP's dime. I wouldn't watch someone take my tax dollars then waste them while at the same time expecting me to feed them. Of course, I'd never be friends with this person in the first place.

Friends in need are welcome anytime. Friends in greed are not.

There is nothing to handle right now except your wounded heart. Ignore her and her mother (which is insane, by the way), block them both and start working on healing. You didn't do anything wrong here.