Jmm1272

Jmm1272 t1_jegx24r wrote

He has “a” say. You are giving him the only say. You have a day too! Again I’m not in the UK but in the US you can say you don’t have enough money for alimony, they court determines that. Some states determine fault for divorce and that impacts the amount, other states have community property and alimony is based on your income. In both examples there is a mathematical formula and they don’t just let someone say “I can’t afford it” you daughter may need child support or school expenses or braces or glasses ….all of those expenses would be determined in your divorce.

Here I found this

Spousal maintenance is an amount awarded by the Courts to be paid by the spouse with the higher income to the spouse with the lower income when a couple divorces. It is only awarded if one party cannot support themselves without payments from the other. It can be awarded for a specified term or for life in some cases.

https://www.family-lawfirm.co.uk/divorce-settlements/spousal-maintenance/

This next one has quite a bit of information

https://www.gov.uk/child-maintenance-service

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Jmm1272 t1_jegtwnt wrote

Ok I am very familiar with Asperger’s and what you described doesn’t sound like that, it sounds like he’s a selfish asshole and is emotionally abusive. Why do you have to follow weird rules and do things his way? What happens if you don’t? I HIGHLY recommend that you DONT do things his way, because it will be healthier for you and your daughter.

I am I’m the US so I don’t know what resources are available to help you. I hope he would have to pay you alimony. Best wishes to you

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Jmm1272 t1_jaesj99 wrote

Ok so this issue comes down to your black and white thinking. Also explains your fast attachment. Don’t bring up the commitment anymore. If you don’t want him to feel pressured, then don’t bro g it up anymore. Just enjoy your time together. Also, you already know he’s bad about texting. Is he better if you call?

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Jmm1272 t1_j6p4r1u wrote

I have been in this situation except we didn’t live together. You have to break up with her and it’s not going to be easy. You are not responsible for her life or her personal struggles. I do understand that you care, but you can’t stay together because she has a hard life and if you stay together it’s going to really deteriorate and end badly. I promise you, the longer you stay the more unpleasant the ending will be.

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Jmm1272 t1_j6p349y wrote

Your friends threw you a party and you’re sad? Not everyone likes to write cards. I am also the kind of person who would love a heartfelt card but you can’t demand it, some people just don’t feel good at it. I have a wonderful ex boyfriend whom I dated for three and a half years and was very caring but never once gave me a card even though he knew I would love it. It’s just not something everyone does. Your girlfriend tried to get you something and you declined. That was how she wanted to celebrate you. BUT you had a great party! Why isn’t that enough to make you happy?

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Jmm1272 t1_j6p2vzr wrote

Your friends threw you a party and you’re sad? Not everyone likes to write cards. I am also the kind of person who would love a heartfelt card but you can’t demand it, some people just don’t feel good at it. I have a wonderful ex boyfriend whom I dated for three and a half years and was very caring but never once gave me a card even though he knew I would love it. It’s just not something everyone does.

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