You can't "just choose to stop" them like I can't "just choose to run a marathon". But I could condition myself to be able to do that over time with appropriate techniques.
Wording like yours implies nothing can be done in action to find relief or health. Now, ofc, everyone's different and some things you certainly can't condition yourself out of (like how I can't "just choose to fly" or someone with OCD can't "just choose to stop obsessing"), but I'd wager resentment is not one of those immutable things.
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You can't "just choose to stop" them like I can't "just choose to run a marathon". But I could condition myself to be able to do that over time with appropriate techniques.
Wording like yours implies nothing can be done in action to find relief or health. Now, ofc, everyone's different and some things you certainly can't condition yourself out of (like how I can't "just choose to fly" or someone with OCD can't "just choose to stop obsessing"), but I'd wager resentment is not one of those immutable things.