First: missing payroll is a BIG DEAL. The business depends on the employees. Maybe look at the whole payroll process. Are you paperless? Can you send the paycheck to their phones with and emailed "stub"? Do you do a lot of the bookkeeping?

If you have a business together you will sometimes have to make decisions that are right for the business and there are no "sides".

Keeping yourself afloat is always the most important thing. You can't be there for anyone else if you aren't there for yourself.

Have that long talk with your husband when he comes back. The business needs a plan for emergencies.

The living room is not the point at all. The point is that you have absolutely no say as to what goes on in this house: who lives there, what parts of the house are your domain. You have no leverage in this marriage. Why put up with that?

If you left, he would have to support three people. You would only have to support yourself.

He doesn't get it. He doesn't care. Sit him down and explain that this is a deal breaker for you.

I've had that problem too. Set up his pay check for direct deposit to two accounts: a debit/checking and a savings. You can set up the savings that he can see it but not touch it or not see it at all.

He proposed buying another truck for $13,000. That's buys a very nice diamond ring.

Do not date in the workplace unless you are going to leave the job in less than a year.

This is sexual assault. If you say stop and he doesn't, it's assault. You need to stop seeing this person immediately.

A 37yo man has no business being with an 18 yo. He's with you because you are young and naive and can be persuaded that this is normal. A woman closer to his age would never take this abuse from someone. He's abusive. He says he wants a baby so that he can trap you and sell you on the idea that you'll be a family for ever.

I assume your parents don't know about this guy. If you trust them, tell them about this guy.

In any event, please refrain from dating anyone over 21 at this point. Better - no dating until you figure out how you got yourself in this situation and why your self esteem is not stronger.

Remember, you are not responsible for all this. She is not a people person, you are. I am not a people person but if I have to I can talk to anyone. This tooks decades.

The jealousy, ideation, and self harm are all signs that she needs someone to talk to. A lot of therapy is not "fixing you". Most of it is figuring out how you can be you in the world. How to adapt. There is another part where the therapist does call you out and point out that your opinion or thoughts about a situation are probably off and you need to re-orient your thinking. They usually do it in a nice and non-threatening way.

This is not your problem. This is hers. She needs to get into counseling. As you're at uni, there have to be free/cheap services on campus.

The only thing you can do is make sure that when you reach out to people is that you include her in the intro and the conversation. If something comes up in the conversation that she could comment on, direct the conversation towards her. And, is a walk accross campus a party or a chance for some one on one time with your gf?

Don't respond.

What does the gender of the person you are going with matter at ALL? If you are going with a friend, gender does not matter in this situation.

Consider that maybe you and bf are not a good match.