Japan has been this way since forever. Different people have different ideas about what's acceptable and what isn't.

Souls? No, it's just hard but fair. Learn attack patterns, stop spending your souls/echoes/runes/whatever on every attribute, git gud etc.

Competitive online games? Very different story. Anyone who claims to have never at least been tempted to break something is a liar, or has never really played anything competitively.

I'm not condoning it, but it happens. Imagine all the emotions of an athletic sport, only without the physical exhaustion acting as a counterbalance.