People deserve a conversation, answers and an explanation when they’re being dumped. Closure can help both parties move on.

Make sure to align on the intention of the conversation beforehand though. The intention should indeed be closure and to have any open questions answered. There is nothing wrong with having that dialogue with an ex-partner.

Be sure though that the conversation remains objective and constructive. You are always able to set a boundary or end the conversation as soon as you notice it shifts from constructive closure towards blaming, guilt tripping or trying to win you back.

If an ex-partner already has the habit of doing the latter then sure, you can deny them the conversation as a way of protecting your own mental health. Though don’t deny through stonewalling and/or ghosting, but respectfully let the other person know you do not feel comfortable engaging in further conversation with them and explain to them why.

It’s really dependent on the situation I’d say.

Well intended, but very manipulative and denigrating too imo. I would be really angry if I’d found out my partner did this behind my back.

Your gf may have drunkenly invited him, but you could’ve mentioned in that moment that you didn’t think it would be the best idea or would have to be aligned with the rest of the group first, rather than sending him the website and asking him to buy a ticket.

I am also not entirely sure why you don’t want him to come. If he is a good and social guy then what’s the problem? Him being glued to you is an assumption you are making. I have been invited by friends to join their group friends multiple times. I was never glued to them to the whole time. I was introduced, started making small talk, trying to get to know the people. It usually ends up in me talking more to the people I don’t know rather than the actual friend who invited me on those occasions.

Rest assured the guy is not going to expect you to babysit him during the event. And if you do find him being too glued to you that night then simply say “hé man, I’m gonna go talk to my other friends for a bit now”. Surely he would understand and will find his way talking to some other folks for a bit.

Idk, don’t underestimate someones social capabilities and just give the guy a chance rather than making all these assumptions. Just be chill and go with the flow that night.

In The Netherlands we have traditional dishes called “stamppot”. It’s basically cooked potatoes and vegetables, then mashed together, topped with gravy and smoked sausage.

Two pounds of potatoes, one pound of vegetables (whole carrots, kale, endive) and two onions, prepared in a two gallon pot should be enough for 6 adult sized portions.

Gravy can be replaced with powdered gravy and the smoked sausage with (canned) hot dogs to make it cheaper.

I also like chili sin carne. Rice, canned red kidney beans, canned diced tomatoes, canned adobo sauce, garlic. Leaving out the meat, because that is usually what makes it more expensive. But great dish to make in large amounts.