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MammothAd1266 t1_iui7o5k wrote
Reply to comment by Keanu_Weebz in Should (24M) confess my love in the first meetup/date? by Keanu_Weebz
go out on a date? yes, you can do that on first meet. How else are you going to get to know someone?
But don't ask them to be in a relationship when you haven't even met in person yet.
MammothAd1266 t1_iui3f1z wrote
you should definitley wait.
I'd be freaked out if someone said they were in love with me when we had only talked online
MammothAd1266 t1_iuhm3sn wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in Is it unhealthy for me (31f) not to want to get to know one of my bf's (38M) friends? by [deleted]
Yes, that would be different. addiction is extremely damaging and can manifest in ways which are dangerous to the people around them.Whilst I firmly believe addicts need support and not isolation, I can see why someone would be cautious about being around them.That's very different to 'I don't like the fact they post pictures of themselves online'
I think you should go. It's one evening and will make your partner happy. Express any boundaries if she makes you uncomfortable and if she continues to do so, tell your boyfriend. Personally, I wouldn't continue to be friends with someone who intentionally broke my partner's boundaries. It's so disrespectful and it shows you what type of person they are.
I think you're being immature for not giving her a chance but he would being immature if he bruses off the fact she broke your boundaries
MammothAd1266 t1_iuhimvs wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in Is it unhealthy for me (31f) not to want to get to know one of my bf's (38M) friends? by [deleted]
It sounds like you've already made up your mind that you don't like her which is ridicolous.
It's one evening, there will be other people there so it's not like you'll only be talking with her. it's for your boyfriend. sometimes, in relationships, you have to make compromises and do things you don't want because you know it makes your partner happy.
MammothAd1266 t1_iuhgclx wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in Is it unhealthy for me (31f) not to want to get to know one of my bf's (38M) friends? by [deleted]
yes, you do have that right. But I can't say if it's a healthy boundary if I don't know why. For example if it's because they are violent, that's fair enough. if it's because they like a different genre of music, i'd say grow up.
The touch I get but the others, I don't see why it's a big deal. just don't follow her and you won't see them. I'd meet them but if she does get touchy feely, set boundaries. Intentionally aoviding her is going to be awkward and difficult. no one says you have to be best friends, but meeting her and being civil won't hurt you/
MammothAd1266 t1_iuhf1ys wrote
Reply to Is it unhealthy for me (31f) not to want to get to know one of my bf's (38M) friends? by [deleted]
It really depends on what the reason is.
MammothAd1266 t1_iujo9kb wrote
Reply to My boyfriend (23M) for 7 years and I (22M) got into it over a dinner I had made. by EfficientPassenger25
Honestly i'd dump him. He sounds like a lazy self-centred twat