McSuzy
McSuzy t1_jaevlh2 wrote
Stay in SK until your master's.
McSuzy t1_jaetegs wrote
Reply to My 26 F, MIL 53 F has changed in her views and now I don't want to move in with her by ADHD_BunnyMinx
The joint house purchase was really never a good idea, even before your mother in law's newfound religious predilection but now it is out of the question. You just need to tell your husband that you will not live with his parents. From there he can decide to compromise or to be alone.
McSuzy t1_jad6glf wrote
Reply to Should I (26F) ask my ex (27M) for the money back that I paid for his tuition? by [deleted]
Was it a loan? With a plan to repay?
McSuzy t1_jacw1aq wrote
Reply to Moving in together 35F 30M by Sofluffy27
Five months is much too soon and you need to keep your place because of the very favorable pricing.
McSuzy t1_j6ow6u7 wrote
You need to flee in the night.
He is a danger to your children and all of this nonsense about who is happy or who works hard or who is dumb or whether you buy good gifts is unimportant nonsense that you should not spent one more second of your life thinking about.
He is threatening you and he is threatening to run into a tree.
Take what you can carry and get out the next time he is gone or falls asleep.
McSuzy t1_j6osg90 wrote
Reply to comment by temporarylossofmind in My boyfriend (28M) is refusing the vaccine because Bill Gates just came out saying it was ineffective. How do I convince him to get the vaccine for my (26F) safety? by [deleted]
and?
what did you think would change?????????
McSuzy t1_j6oruv2 wrote
Reply to comment by temporarylossofmind in My boyfriend (28M) is refusing the vaccine because Bill Gates just came out saying it was ineffective. How do I convince him to get the vaccine for my (26F) safety? by [deleted]
My question is very very clear. Why wasn't he vaccinated in 2021?
You claim he has decided not to take the vaccine because of something he thinks he heard now.
How did he get this far into the pandemic without the vaccine? And knowing that he was unvaccinated at this very late point in the COVID crisis, how do you explain your sudden interest in changing his mind?
McSuzy t1_j6orle3 wrote
Reply to My mom (60F) has to get surgery and i'm (19F) leaving on a solo trip for 2 months by [deleted]
It seems the first thing to do is to postpone your trip.
McSuzy t1_j6opdos wrote
Reply to comment by temporarylossofmind in My boyfriend (28M) is refusing the vaccine because Bill Gates just came out saying it was ineffective. How do I convince him to get the vaccine for my (26F) safety? by [deleted]
You're not answering my question. Why wasn't your boyfriend vaccinated in 2021?
McSuzy t1_j6ooc59 wrote
Reply to My boyfriend (28M) is refusing the vaccine because Bill Gates just came out saying it was ineffective. How do I convince him to get the vaccine for my (26F) safety? by [deleted]
It's January of the year two thousand and twenty three.
You're just now feeling unsafe because your boyfriend refuses the vaccine?
McSuzy t1_j6ojmmn wrote
Reply to My partner M37 doesn’t acknowledge my F36 feelings and gets into a mood when I address anything with him by ThrowRaglam87
He never used to be like this?
You've been dating for six months.
McSuzy t1_j6o6fk7 wrote
What is the nature of this clinic?
McSuzy t1_j6nlci5 wrote
How much money was he supposed to get?
McSuzy t1_j6nk5us wrote
Reply to comment by HauntedPickleJar in My (20F) Boyfriend (19M) of 2yrs Tipped 10%. Am I Being Overdramatic? by [deleted]
It's shocking! It's crazy! Blah blah blah.
It's how it works and it's just not that hard.
McSuzy t1_j6nepm1 wrote
Reply to comment by SlowmoTron in My (20F) Boyfriend (19M) of 2yrs Tipped 10%. Am I Being Overdramatic? by [deleted]
A real man pays the bill, including at least 20% tip, when he takes his girlfriend out for her birthday.
McSuzy t1_j6neehr wrote
Reply to comment by lrlandesa in My (20F) Boyfriend (19M) of 2yrs Tipped 10%. Am I Being Overdramatic? by [deleted]
I think there are a bunch of kids posting in this thread to screw around.
McSuzy t1_j6ne7m7 wrote
Reply to comment by damnkira in My (20F) Boyfriend (19M) of 2yrs Tipped 10%. Am I Being Overdramatic? by [deleted]
It is the way that server pay is structured here. There are some sad historic roots for the practice but the simple fact is that servers do not want to transition away from tipping. They are better off with the current system.
For diners, it is very very simple. When you are served, you tip. The going rate is 20% for acceptable service. It is very simple to calculate and you know before you even choose a restaurant that you will be tipping. It's just not hard.
And of course people who fail to tip properly are scrutinized. That is tantamount to running out on the check. If you don't tip well, you should be criticized.
McSuzy t1_j6n9gm6 wrote
Reply to comment by Silent_Impressions in My (20F) Boyfriend (19M) of 2yrs Tipped 10%. Am I Being Overdramatic? by [deleted]
Nonsense.
When I was young I went out less often and to less expensive places. I most certainly didn't decide I could rob my server because I wanted to live high on the hog and then stiff the waiter or leave a paltry tip.
Also, it is quite obvious that this boyfriend wanted to take her out. This is not about her not paying the tip. I guarantee this boy would have a full blown tantrum at the dinner table if she tried to pay the tip.
McSuzy t1_j6n91v7 wrote
I would not be able to tolerate that choice. However, you already know that he does not tip, so I am not sure why you thought it made sense to agree to go to a restaurant. Mentioning the issue at the table as the check is being paid is very confrontational and did not result with the server being properly compensated.
Your boyfriend's thought process is illogical. His decision to purchase birthday decorations for a twenty year old woman has nothing to do with the basic social contract of tipping 20% for adequate service. That is how restaurants work. His assessment of what the server had to do has zero impact on how tipping works. He is wrong and his error reveals that he is childish, self-involved, and not able to think clearly.
But he is your boyfriend and you decided to go to dinner with him.
If you continue dine out with him, you need to surreptitiously leave a full 20% tip so that the server always gets at least that. Bring cash and leave it on the table just as you are leaving or hand it to your server privately while you pretend to use the ladies' room.
McSuzy t1_j6kr4k6 wrote
Reply to comment by Brave_Bother5162 in Me (27F) and my boyfriend (31M) - I need help understanding what just happened by [deleted]
Well I can parse out the fact that you're indulging a very damaged man who should not be in a relationship with anyone. Stop doing that. He is not worthy of your time and attention.
McSuzy t1_j6kpw20 wrote
Reply to comment by Brave_Bother5162 in Me (27F) and my boyfriend (31M) - I need help understanding what just happened by [deleted]
No
McSuzy t1_j6kp1v3 wrote
Reply to comment by Brave_Bother5162 in Me (27F) and my boyfriend (31M) - I need help understanding what just happened by [deleted]
I just want to point out that you are not closer to actually articulating what is going on and what the problem is. I point it out because I want to know if this is part and parcel of your communication style or if this is just a desperate attempt not to honestly state what is happening.
McSuzy t1_j6kouud wrote
Reply to comment by Brave_Bother5162 in Me (27F) and my boyfriend (31M) - I need help understanding what just happened by [deleted]
Well why are you doing that?
McSuzy t1_j6kn326 wrote
Reply to Me (27F) and my boyfriend (31M) - I need help understanding what just happened by [deleted]
I'm sorry but I can't understand what you are trying to say. At all.
What, if anything, is the issue? You seem to have endless annoyingly convoluted pointless conversations with this guy but I can't just read them all. I need you to tell us what the problem is.
McSuzy t1_jea6r2b wrote
Reply to My GF [28F] of 2 months told me [25M] that my career is more important than hers and is feeling disconnected from me for taking a remote job. I am thinking of ending things because I feel this is manipulative by [deleted]
I read as far as two months.
You should not even be discussing career stuff at that stage. Put on the brakes.