McSuzy

McSuzy t1_j6ow6u7 wrote

You need to flee in the night.

He is a danger to your children and all of this nonsense about who is happy or who works hard or who is dumb or whether you buy good gifts is unimportant nonsense that you should not spent one more second of your life thinking about.

He is threatening you and he is threatening to run into a tree.

Take what you can carry and get out the next time he is gone or falls asleep.

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McSuzy t1_j6oruv2 wrote

My question is very very clear. Why wasn't he vaccinated in 2021?

You claim he has decided not to take the vaccine because of something he thinks he heard now.

How did he get this far into the pandemic without the vaccine? And knowing that he was unvaccinated at this very late point in the COVID crisis, how do you explain your sudden interest in changing his mind?

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McSuzy t1_j6ne7m7 wrote

It is the way that server pay is structured here. There are some sad historic roots for the practice but the simple fact is that servers do not want to transition away from tipping. They are better off with the current system.

For diners, it is very very simple. When you are served, you tip. The going rate is 20% for acceptable service. It is very simple to calculate and you know before you even choose a restaurant that you will be tipping. It's just not hard.

And of course people who fail to tip properly are scrutinized. That is tantamount to running out on the check. If you don't tip well, you should be criticized.

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McSuzy t1_j6n9gm6 wrote

Nonsense.

When I was young I went out less often and to less expensive places. I most certainly didn't decide I could rob my server because I wanted to live high on the hog and then stiff the waiter or leave a paltry tip.

Also, it is quite obvious that this boyfriend wanted to take her out. This is not about her not paying the tip. I guarantee this boy would have a full blown tantrum at the dinner table if she tried to pay the tip.

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McSuzy t1_j6n91v7 wrote

I would not be able to tolerate that choice. However, you already know that he does not tip, so I am not sure why you thought it made sense to agree to go to a restaurant. Mentioning the issue at the table as the check is being paid is very confrontational and did not result with the server being properly compensated.

Your boyfriend's thought process is illogical. His decision to purchase birthday decorations for a twenty year old woman has nothing to do with the basic social contract of tipping 20% for adequate service. That is how restaurants work. His assessment of what the server had to do has zero impact on how tipping works. He is wrong and his error reveals that he is childish, self-involved, and not able to think clearly.

But he is your boyfriend and you decided to go to dinner with him.

If you continue dine out with him, you need to surreptitiously leave a full 20% tip so that the server always gets at least that. Bring cash and leave it on the table just as you are leaving or hand it to your server privately while you pretend to use the ladies' room.

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