How the hell do you know? Are you in that relationship? Do you know the person in question? You have one side of a story, I am simply saying it is possible that it is a desperate attempt to salvage a relationship. People are so narrow minded and quick to jump to negativity.

It could be stalking or it could be the desperate attempt of a man in love. I told her to leave regardless

Don't get me wrong, the behavior can definitely be viewed as manipulation but as they say, a drowning man will clutch at a straw.

I read it but that doesn't change the response about him expressing his feelings. You should still end the relationship.

So he isn't allowed to show emotion? It's no different than a woman crying over a breakup. If you feel the relationship has run it's course end it but don't treat him like he shouldn't have emotions, that's the type of toxic shit we are trying to get rid of in men. Validate his feelings but let him know you are not interested anymore. As for those saying he should man up...fuck that, it can't be both ways here. You can't expect men to be more in touch with their feelings to be a better partner but expect them to not express those feelings.

How do you have a friend that doesn't know about your long term relationship? Why did you wait so long unless you had hopes of something more with said friend. Sounds like you have been leading your friend on and she bailed when you mentioned your relationship