MissMarionMac

MissMarionMac t1_j2bs40r wrote

Reply to comment by Throwraes in (30-F)(40-M). I feel like my boyfriend speaks to me in a childish and selfish way. But I don’t know how to respond to explain to him how much is upsets me. by Throwraes

Sounds like you're dealing with some of the sunk-cost fallacy--the idea that you've invested so much time and energy into something that you can't back out now.

You can.

(And honestly, take that holiday by yourself if you want to. Just for a change of scene and to explore on your own.)

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MissMarionMac t1_j2box16 wrote

Reply to (30-F)(40-M). I feel like my boyfriend speaks to me in a childish and selfish way. But I don’t know how to respond to explain to him how much is upsets me. by Throwraes

Oh my God.

I have depression and anxiety. I see my therapist, I take medication, and I have hobbies that I enjoy that get me out of the house because I know it's good for me.

The fact that he doesn't even seem to be trying to manage the depression and anxiety, but rather he's choosing to embrace and even wallow in it... that is a huge red flag.

He is not willing to lift a finger to take care of himself, or contribute to the life the two of you are living together.

Do you actually like him? Is this relationship making your life better, or worse?

Until he is willing to take some concrete steps to get his life on track, nothing will change, and it will probably get worse.

You deserve so much better.

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