Man if this shocks you, don't go to Crete. They have entire streets lined with Penis/Fertility trinkets.

IDK hard to tell, Mario maybe?

Cyberpunk is in a pretty good place now, you can play as a female if that matters to her and there's tons of violence, but only to people.

The Just Cause series is essentially a chaos simulator in an open world with no animals that I can remember, or at the very least animals are completely optional.

Dishonored 1 and 2 you can play both stealth but also become a murder machine, especially in 2

All games? Sounds like you haven't played Power Wash Simulator or Sex with Hitler 2