Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. It sounds like planning is a strength for you. That's great! What are his strengths? Do they make up for his weaknesses?

I really enjoy planning and getting to pick out what my partner and I do. My current bf will plan too but I actually prefer to do the planning. I've been in relationships where guys would make extravagant plans... it was nice but I found if a guy did that early on they were often just trying to impress and their true shitty natures came out later on. Love bombing is actually a really common thing... The extravagant planners in my past turned out to be liers, cheaters and abusers...

It sounds like he isn't a planner. Lots of people arnt. It also sounds like he won't change since you already told him about it. But it does sound like he has other positive qualities. Does he show you he loves you in other ways?

I think being "distraught" over him not planning special outings seems a little extreme to me. But if its that important to you then maybe he's not the right guy for you.

I'm sorry he outed you. It's super common for couples to tell eachother everything. Not that it's right but it is common. It's also common for couples to spend all their time together. Especially in the beginning. Try not to take it personally. It's not about you. As long as you're not too angry I'm certain he will still make an effort to be your friend but your friendship will be different.

Has he ever cheated on anyone else?