MrBubbles226 t1_irv1ak3 wrote

When young people are abused or neglected, it can be hard for their minds to come to terms with the reality of it.

Many reenact the behavior. That's why you often hear of the abused becoming abusers. Reenacting gives then some sense of control again, and tries to make the reality make sense to them.

But as they grow older, like your friend, the brain develops, and perception becomes better. They have a chance of catching themselves and changing for the better, like your friend.

Some do, and some don't. Imo it explains a lot of the people in prison. They were not able to catch themselves, so society eventually had to.


MrBubbles226 t1_irv0wz6 wrote

Yeah it's a nice term for something pretty heinous.

I'm sorry you had to deal with that. Childhood experiences stay with us our whole lives, but they don't have to define us.

Often, those who are subjected to abuse and neglect when they are young repeat the behavior. So don't blame yourself if you've inadvertently picked up any bad behaviors. Reenacting trauma and bad experiences is a way for young minds to try to get some sense of control.