I'm having a similar problem at 31 too but it's because I stayed at home having/with children for ten years now. I was a single mother to my first when she was young, got with my partner and went back work when she hit school but got pregnant with my son and stopped after nine months to have him, now he's 3 and I've just gotten a job at a supermarket. I feel like I'm starting from where I was at 16/17. I fucked up study opportunities too when I was on my own with my first, I didn't realise how hard it is to study and be interrupted all the time, I had no idea what I actually wanted to do so I went with random science degree. I didn't handle it but I owe $18,000 in student loans. Study is now much more expensive so going back would be a huge commitment. I don't think there's any sort of lightbulb moment or big change that gets you going, you just have to go. I'm trying to see opportunity in everything. Working in a public facing role will hopefully improve my social skills and ability to talk to people even if it is only a simple, every level job. Hopefully I can end my dependence on social payments too with enough hours ECT, maybe learn a few of the departments and be open to any opportunities there. Idk what else, I might look into social work or teaching if I can figure out how to do teaching without moving around the country with the kids lol. I think the more you tell yourself you've failed and nothing is going to happen for you, the more you guarantee that future~
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Reply to [Text] How do you fix your life in your 30s after wasting about 8 years unemployed and living with family by sleeplessbearr
I'm having a similar problem at 31 too but it's because I stayed at home having/with children for ten years now. I was a single mother to my first when she was young, got with my partner and went back work when she hit school but got pregnant with my son and stopped after nine months to have him, now he's 3 and I've just gotten a job at a supermarket. I feel like I'm starting from where I was at 16/17. I fucked up study opportunities too when I was on my own with my first, I didn't realise how hard it is to study and be interrupted all the time, I had no idea what I actually wanted to do so I went with random science degree. I didn't handle it but I owe $18,000 in student loans. Study is now much more expensive so going back would be a huge commitment. I don't think there's any sort of lightbulb moment or big change that gets you going, you just have to go. I'm trying to see opportunity in everything. Working in a public facing role will hopefully improve my social skills and ability to talk to people even if it is only a simple, every level job. Hopefully I can end my dependence on social payments too with enough hours ECT, maybe learn a few of the departments and be open to any opportunities there. Idk what else, I might look into social work or teaching if I can figure out how to do teaching without moving around the country with the kids lol. I think the more you tell yourself you've failed and nothing is going to happen for you, the more you guarantee that future~