She didn't speak about it much and I didn't bring it up. Sometimes it would come up in conversation like chronic pain, diabetes, having to wear a leg brace or a walking stick when she doesn't have the brace. She has to wear a feeding tube last time we spoke. She has other conditions but we never spoke about them. She said her mom's the same and she inherited her mom's disability.

Not wishing a baby to be born disabled makes me ableist? 🤨

Ex friend. We fell out a some months ago and haven't spoken since. This just came up today and thought I'd share it as I still felt a tiny bit bad.

Some time before we fell out she was losing weight like no matter what she ate. Then she had to go to the hospital because she almost died from starving. Now she has to have a feeding tube and she couldn't sleep well cos of it. I'm not sure what disease or condition caused that but but I really wouldn't want a baby to inherit that or have to go through it.

Not saying the baby would be born disabled but it's a really big risk they're taking. It would be like a miracle if the baby was completely normal.

Thanks. Yea I think her body's doing her a favour. She was born like this and developed those conditions and now she wants to pass them onto a baby.

Probably a good thing we aren't friends anymore.