I gotta say, having been in pretty much the same situation, the worst thing was them keeping contact. It made me jealous, miserable, pathetic, all the bad things. I don't know how he even has friends after the shit he ended up saying to me lol.

"oh boy golly, cheating and abuse sure is a bad way to find out about an incompatibility"

sounds like cheater, abuser, and manipulater talk lmao

i dont mean to be rude, but no shit, Sherlock.